He reeks of manipulation
He's adjusted his tactic regarding our girl's cats. Instead of them being a financial issue our eldest daughter's cat has now become a concern to him. He's reported that her cat never leaves her bedroom unless she's there on his weekends. He feels she should visit more or he will need to get rid of her cat.
Her sister states otherwise. She says her cat hangs out with them but when everyone goes to bed her cat sleeps in her room.
My concern is the obvious manipulation he's employing, using her guilt in order to secure visitation during the week, time which was taken away from him because of his behavior towards her.
She's called me numerous times on Friday, Saturday and today in varying degrees of upset. Each time I was thankfully able to calm her down. This can't continue. I can't be put through this every weekend and she shouldn't have had to deal with this to begin with.
He thinks he's so suave like he's got her right where he wants her, she'll give in any moment and he'll have won and finally gotten his way. "Well Mr. Insensitive your daughter just called and told me you're using her cat as a way to control her."
My town home has a no pet policy, the other town homes I looked at wanted outrageous pet deposits and was asking for an extra $50 a month rent. I can't afford that or I'd have taken the cats when I moved out and instead of this mess we'd probably be in court fighting over who gets cat possession.
What he doesn't realize is her cat wasn't enough to keep her there it was that bad. So what he's trying to do isn't working, it's only making her hate him more. And if he does get rid of her cat according to her there won't be a reason for her to go and visit him on his weekends. At least nothing she could look forward to.
I grew complacent these past few weeks, she did too. Once again we're right back to where we started. I've absolutely no hope for their relationship and I have to wonder am I doing her more damage by ensuring she goes to his place the weekends I don't have her.
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